My best friend's hubby was involved in a serious accident about three weeks ago. He was in ICU for almost two weeks, and has had many surgeries since the accident. I continue to pray for them. The road to recovery is going to be a long and difficult one, but I know he can do it. I was in complete disbelief when I heard what happened, and it was such a shock that I actually had nothing to say. The sad thing is they had been trying for a baby for a long time. Some of us know how difficult that can be, and then on top of all of that, this happens.
I only went to the hospital the next Saturday, just to see my friend. People had been showing up expecting to see her husband, which I think is quite selfish considering she had been sitting at the hospital day in and day out waiting for visiting hours while he lay in ICU. I would expect them to visit her and see how she is doing. Anyway, she had blood tests done earlier that day, and I shouldn't be sharing this as it is too soon - but she found out that she is pregnant! The best part is that I was there when she found out. We cried like two babies!! She had to ask them to please let her in as she needed to give him some news, and so she told him that she is pregnant. At first he congratulated her on the news, and then she told him that HE is going to be a daddy. He processed all this for a moment and then sobbed his heart out. I am so happy for them, albeit under such sad circumstances.
The thing is, I have known her for many, many years, and to be honest, I can't see her without him in her life. She would never be the same and I couldn't have dreamed up anyone better for her than him. I pray for strength for them both. They have nicknamed him "Iron Man" because he seems to have pulled through.
Talk about a serious wake up call. Never take the person you love for granted, because you never know what is going to happen. We are all guilty of doing this, in fact, we do this every day.
So, folks.... seems I have a baby shower to plan!
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Sunday, June 10, 2012
My Take on Family and Friends
This weekend was my planned baby shower with family and friends. Hubby had arranged to have a braai for the guys and girls after who wanted to stay. My dad was also invited, and his girlfriend and her daughter were invited to the shower. I had to remind him to RSVP this week, and didn't hear from him again.
On Saturday morning I went to school, it was our last lecture - uh oh, 2 weeks to go until our final exam. It was freezing cold. Afterwards I came home, had a hot cup of milo and popped out to the shops. My planned baby shower was going to start at 2pm and I wanted to get a few snacks or sarmies to add to the table. My last stop was PNP, I went in to get a few bags of chips. Just as I got to the till I got an sms from my dad. They are not coming. No reason either, except for sorry, and he will see me in the week. I paid and got back to the car as fast as possible because I could feel that I was about to burst into tears. I sat in my car for a few minutes and just and cried my heart out. Yet another disappointment, thanks dad. I actually don't know why every time, I think he will actually show up. My mom can't be here as it is, I was so hoping that my dad would. I am so heart sore and so angry. I had to go to his girlfriend's daughter's baby shower, and I had just lost my baby, but I did it. I went. You would think that my dad would want to be a part of my life, a part of my son's life. I'm not going to force the issue or put in any extra effort any more. I'm really sad to say, but I am done.
I cried all the way home, only to find my step sister and friend had arrived to set up. Couldn't hide my big red eyes though. Hubby and everyone asked what had happened and I cried some more when I told them. They said I shouldn't let this upset me, but it still does.
I learnt this weekend who my 'family' is, and I am so thankful to have these people my life. My mom in law is the most special woman ever, and she's been such a blessing in my life. She spent the night here on Saturday night, and we stayed up chatting, snuggled on the couch. I know my mom would have been here if she could, and I miss her so much.
The day turned out to be incredible, and so much fun, after such a sad start. Everyone seemed to have gotten along so well and I have a few more new and wonderful memories to carry with me. We even ended up having a cake fight! Icing in your hair is not fun to try and wash out, but it was so worth it in the end.
So yes, I am starting my own little family with a bit of a sad heart - but I know that I will do everything in my power so that my boy never has to feel the way I did on Saturday, as well as every time I was disappointed, and every time I wished my parents would be there when they never were. I will be there for him, come rain or shine, happiness or sadness, every day of my life. I will eventually make peace with the fact that some might not want to be part of it, but for now I'm heart sore and angry and that's ok too. And, the best of all is I am starting to love my hubby that much more - can't wait for him to meet his son!
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. ~Kahlil Gibran
On Saturday morning I went to school, it was our last lecture - uh oh, 2 weeks to go until our final exam. It was freezing cold. Afterwards I came home, had a hot cup of milo and popped out to the shops. My planned baby shower was going to start at 2pm and I wanted to get a few snacks or sarmies to add to the table. My last stop was PNP, I went in to get a few bags of chips. Just as I got to the till I got an sms from my dad. They are not coming. No reason either, except for sorry, and he will see me in the week. I paid and got back to the car as fast as possible because I could feel that I was about to burst into tears. I sat in my car for a few minutes and just and cried my heart out. Yet another disappointment, thanks dad. I actually don't know why every time, I think he will actually show up. My mom can't be here as it is, I was so hoping that my dad would. I am so heart sore and so angry. I had to go to his girlfriend's daughter's baby shower, and I had just lost my baby, but I did it. I went. You would think that my dad would want to be a part of my life, a part of my son's life. I'm not going to force the issue or put in any extra effort any more. I'm really sad to say, but I am done.
I cried all the way home, only to find my step sister and friend had arrived to set up. Couldn't hide my big red eyes though. Hubby and everyone asked what had happened and I cried some more when I told them. They said I shouldn't let this upset me, but it still does.
I learnt this weekend who my 'family' is, and I am so thankful to have these people my life. My mom in law is the most special woman ever, and she's been such a blessing in my life. She spent the night here on Saturday night, and we stayed up chatting, snuggled on the couch. I know my mom would have been here if she could, and I miss her so much.
The day turned out to be incredible, and so much fun, after such a sad start. Everyone seemed to have gotten along so well and I have a few more new and wonderful memories to carry with me. We even ended up having a cake fight! Icing in your hair is not fun to try and wash out, but it was so worth it in the end.
So yes, I am starting my own little family with a bit of a sad heart - but I know that I will do everything in my power so that my boy never has to feel the way I did on Saturday, as well as every time I was disappointed, and every time I wished my parents would be there when they never were. I will be there for him, come rain or shine, happiness or sadness, every day of my life. I will eventually make peace with the fact that some might not want to be part of it, but for now I'm heart sore and angry and that's ok too. And, the best of all is I am starting to love my hubby that much more - can't wait for him to meet his son!
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. ~Kahlil Gibran
Thursday, May 31, 2012
Baby Shower Photos by Gaynor Mapi Photography
How gorgeous are these photos? I just love them, thank you so much Gaynor! So blessed to have had you there, and my dear friend, thank you for capturing the day.
Monday, May 28, 2012
Surprise Baby Shower!
I had such a great weekend, and a surprise baby shower on Saturday which was the cherry on the cake. I had no clue, I thought I was going for soup and bread and to help finish party decorations.
Everything was so beautifully set up, and we were so spoilt. I am so blessed and so happy to have such wonderful friends in my life. I have been to so many baby showers in the last 2 and a bit years, all of them special in their own way. Sometimes I did feel sad because we lost our first little one, and we had been battling for so long to try and get pregnant again, but I loved seeing the glows of happiness each time. Happiness is contagious, and if anything it only gave me more hope that it is going to happen to us one day - and finally, it's my turn.
The best of all is that I will get to share this beautiful experience with so many wonderful friends.
Can't wait to show off my little miracle boy, Ashton.
Here are some pictures:
Everything was so beautifully set up, and we were so spoilt. I am so blessed and so happy to have such wonderful friends in my life. I have been to so many baby showers in the last 2 and a bit years, all of them special in their own way. Sometimes I did feel sad because we lost our first little one, and we had been battling for so long to try and get pregnant again, but I loved seeing the glows of happiness each time. Happiness is contagious, and if anything it only gave me more hope that it is going to happen to us one day - and finally, it's my turn.
The best of all is that I will get to share this beautiful experience with so many wonderful friends.
Can't wait to show off my little miracle boy, Ashton.
Here are some pictures:
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